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Monday, March 5, 2012
Machi-con: Local Events Bringing Singles Together
As time passed, the shorter abbreviation of "-con" came to mean the "conpa" as a suffix. There used to be other -con words but presently "Gou-con 合コン" (Gou is from "合同 goudou = consolidated, together, implying co-ed" and "conpa") is the most commonly used word; it translates as young singles' co-ed drinking parties.
It's arranged this way. Party organizers call up a number of males and females and invite them to meet for the drinking party. In Japan, these parties take place in Izakayas or restaurants, not in someone's house or apartment since most Japanese rooms are way too small for hosting parties.
These invited guests are usually 20-something and college kids, but Gou-con co-ed drinking parties are arranged for other age groups, too. Another word for informal drinking parties would be "nomikai 飲み会" ; this word is usually used when the party is formed for people who already know each other.
Like parties everywhere, both Gou-con and Nomikai offer opportunities to find a date. Gou-con parties are oriented more to find a date than Nomikai get togethers. In the latter, relationships among the participants are likely to have already been settled.
In Japan traditionally, arranged marriages used to be common and private meeting setups were called "Omiai お見合い". But EEOC dictates and a somewhat questioning attitude from the West about this tradition eventually changed such a practice. Now Omiai arranged by the family or personal acquaintances of the parents are no longer popular. But in fact, studies show that a high percentage of Japanese people in their 20's~30's are single; poor luck or lack of opportunity to meet the opposite gender are often blamed. People having available sources could participate the Gou-con through their friends but many people don't have such connections.
So now enter Public Omiai parties, renamed with the -con suffix to represent the idea being updated, and coupled with a promotion of the local businesses, called "Machi-con (Machi means town)". This translates as town-size company-finding parties.
In these Machi-cons, the local government or community or the government can be the promoter but often they all are tied up and sell the tickets to the general public or a limited public. Event promoters team up with the local restaurants and other businesses. The style varies but commonly the participants buy a ticket and visit freely a number of participating restaurants in the area for a limited time. Other businesses get involved by issuing coupons for special services offered during the event. Participants have opportunities to meet people while visiting those participants restaurants here and there, and enjoying their food and drinks. Japanese love festivals involving food; this is another kind of food festival with local business promotions targeting the dating community. Each event often has a name with the whole or part of the city's name for the prefix and the -con for the suffix, such as Hama-con (Yoko"hama") and Shibu-con ("Shibu"ya).
An example of a popular Machi-con event is Chiba-con, held in Chiba City, of Chiba Prefecture. The number of tickets sold total 300, 150 of each gender. The ticket cost is 5,900 yen for male guests and 3.900 yen for female guests. The registration is somewhere around the Chiba station. Guests wear a wrist band to enter the participating restaurants/izakayas which are open to participants only during the event hours (15:00~18:00 on a Sunday). Food served is buffet style, drinks are either free for fixed choices or available for a discounted price. I guess the free drinks may be soft drinks since it's a day time event but I'm not sure. This event says it is not only for singles looking for a date.
These events seem popular because participants don't have to appear too eager for finding a date. They easily can leave any situation and just say "well, I wanna try another restaurant". Everyone is made to feel more safe and relaxed, no pressure. Local businesses benefit too; they get a good opportunity of promote what they sell. Some areas involve local tourism as well; other attractions and events besides restaurants can be tied into the main event.
Such events may not be perfect but overall the idea works well. Some events have attracted thousands of participants. People can get together for food, drinks, fun, and good company, plus the local economy gets a boost. Not a bad idea, is it?!
Thursday, February 16, 2012
About Omiyage, or Souvenirs (Part 1 of 2)
You might want something special if you visit Japan but, among Japanese, these are their favorites.
携帯ストラップ Keitai Strap (Cell Phone Strap)
Japanese love collecting tiny things; the art of Netsuke has been known for years. Instead of Netsuke attached to a wallet, the trend is now to attach straps and /or decorative items to a cell phone -- there is a large market in Japan for these straps. (Note: "strap" can mean an actual strap you slip your hand through, or a toy or trinket.) Japanese call cell phones "keitai denwa (portable phone)". The word "phone"is dropped. So in everyday life your Keitei is your cell phone. Keitai straps, according to my observation, should be one of the top items for a souvenir.
In the photo above, Kitty-chan (known as "Hello Kitty" in the US) is holding the Sky Tree. A strap that is designed so that Kitty is attached to some local item is "ご当地キティ Gotochi Kitty". Gotochi refers to a pertinent area of interest so it implies "local". The words of "Gotochi ______" mean a local item. For example, "Gotochi gourmet" means what the visitors want to eat during their trip. "Gotochi straps" are favorite souvenir items to collect or give as a gift for friends and family. Gotochi Kitty-chan straps are quite highly collected items and there are so many different kinds. You'll find at least a couple of them in shops inside the airports and stations or the gift shops in the tourist attractions. Of course Kitty is not the only one. There are so many different characters attached to the local representing items. Quite a few areas have their own characters. And like the image above "Hatsune Miku Kitty-chan", there are items not related to the local area but are special and usually depicting a popular character.
Actually these are an evolved version of old days' key chains. You'll also see a variety of old fashioned Gotochi key chains (Japanese call this a "kii horudaa (key holder)"). Keitai straps are a really favorite souvenir item all over in Japan. These little items are not expensive and usually small, so they are an ideal souvenir of Japan.
Sweets
Local original sweets are also a favorite Japanese souvenir. Often they are neatly packaged individually, which make them handy to give to coworkers as well as to eat by yourself or with your family and friends.
Here are the top Tokyo souvenir sweets you can buy inside Tokyo Station and at Narita and Haneda airports. Note: I'm not a sweet eater so most of them I've never eaten. Sorry, I can't give you a good review.
銘菓ひよこ Meika Hiyoko
Hiyoko means chicks, the "Meika (famous sweet) Hiyoko" or simply "Hiyoko" is a long time Tokyo souvenir sweet.

ショコラヴィヨン Chocolat Vion
Actually I don't know how to spell this item. These are chocolate covered cookies from Shiseido Parlor. Shiseido is a known cosmetic producer but they originally was a drugstore. In the drugstore there would be a soda fountain, named Shiseido Parlor. So the descendent of this business still remains. You can find a luxurious cafe in the headquarters building as well as in a few branches. The shop part of the business sell them. The original location is in Ginza.
舟和いも羊羹 Funawa Imo Yokan
This is a Japanese version of a sweet potato delicacy. It's made of sweet potato, a long time souvenir sweet of Asakusa. Yokan is a molded square shaped bar, usually made of sweet beans but this is made of sweet potatoes. This is not sold in Narita.
東京ばな奈 Tokyo Banana
It seems to be the best known Tokyo souvenir sweet; everyone knows about it but I wasn't familiar with this treat for a long time, so I think this may be more of a recent favorite. The official website celebrates their 20th anniversary. It's a butter cake with a banana flavored cream filling. I've never tried this so I have no idea what it tastes like. But I would guess that most Westerners will like it. The manufacturer's headquarters is in the Suginami Ward of Tokyo.
東京スマイルマカロン Tokyo Smile Macarons
Macarons are pretty popular sweets in Japan in recent years. I have no idea what these taste like. If you're curious see the linked wikipedia explanation to figure out what it is. I just liked the smilie guy with the colorful pieces -- they are sold in Haneda Airport. It seems they do not have a shop in Narita and I'm not sure the shop in Tokyo Station sells the ones with smiles and hearts. The main shop is in Ginza. They have many shops all over in Japan. Pictured are the Tokyo Smile Macarons.
Here's another heart shaped Macarons from サマンサタバサ Samantha Thavasa. This is a high fashion apparel brand that mainly sells bags and jewelry. They have a shop in Haneda and sell sweets and serve cafe items inside the shop. I believe it is a Japanese business but this website shows a lot of advertising photos with the Western models. It looks odd but it is pretty common to see the Western models in Japanese publications and TV commercials, although they have no relation to the foreigners nor any foreign language information availability.
All of the above items are from Tokyo. Please send us a request and we can furnish information on souvenirs from a particular locale in Japan that you're interested in.
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Excellent Japanese Cooking Tutors on YouTube
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In conclusion, my thoughts are with CWD Chef and her family. I hope she feels better soon.
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Coffee Shops in Japan -Trends and Franchises

"Kissaten" is a classic old style coffee shop. It used to be that this type of establishment was about the only place to have a cup of coffee in Japan. At this shop they mainly serve coffee and soft drinks, and some classic lunch-like dishes such as Spaghetti Neapolitan, omuraisu (omelet over flavored rice), sandwiches and maybe a simple ice cream sundae.
Actually, the term "kissaten" is rather old and unfashionable now, though these coffee shops are still around. What you will likely see in a place like this is a guy sitting by himself reading the sports pages or a manga magazine, a couple of mid-aged neighbors, or a taxi driver taking a break. It is a low key, down to earth, nothing special atmosphere.
Being old and unfashionable, recently this type is revived similar to visiting the Showa (the era before current "Heisei") ruins. The photo is outside of Oka in Ueno, Tokyo. We used to go to these places as juveniles, acting like 20+ when we were 15 or so!! It was our place to hang out those days. To me these kissaten impose an image of those "acting 20+" are still there although they are way older than 20+ now, meaning you don't expect a contemporary "atmosphere" but it may still be interesting. Their coffee and foods may be good and the price range of a cup of coffee may be around 400~500 yen.
Cafe / カフェ
A "cafe" in Japan is just like a cafe in France, Italy or the States. Lately, "Cafe" likely means a fashionable coffee place people intentionally visit. This photo is of the Canal Cafe in Tokyo. There is a quite similar cafe here in Chicago by the river. They serve coffee and other soft drinks, sweets and lunch, brunch and dinner. It all depends on the individual business but many serve Western dishes.
A recent trend is for cafes to be established at a countryside location or in a remodeled traditional house. At a Countryside Cafe 田舎カフェ, which you will find (obviously) in a rural area, drinks and foods made with local products are served. Using a remodeled traditional house for a cafe (or other business) is common in the preserved historical areas but also in big cities.
Here is a photo of the Koguma Cafe こぐまカフェ near the brand new Sky Tree Tower. It is in a small area near the Sky Tree where was not burned out by the Tokyo Air Raid on 3/20/1945. I haven't been in the area for a long time so I don't know what it looks like now, but it seems they still have buildings standing from the pre-WWII. Most areas in central Tokyo were all burned down, common people's houses older than 1945 were not very common even 50 years ago. Anyway, this neighborhood near Sky Tree survived; some houses pre-1945 are still there today. This cafe used to be one of those old residences.
These cafes are the places you go for the atmosphere in addition to your cup of coffee, which means the price isn't so cheap. This Canal Cafe by the river serves a cup of coffee for 500 yen.
Franchise Coffee Shops
The franchise coffee shop is where you go for some coffee plain and simple. The reasonable ones are, like in the US, are fast food franchises. You may be lucky and find McDonald's selling you a coffee for 100 yen while a promotion, though the regular price of their M (medium) size is 200+ yen.
If you like Starbucks, here's good news: they are all over in Japan. The cup sizes are smaller and they have a smaller size we don't have in the US. Pricing and menu items are reasonably close to their counterparts in the US.

Another franchise you find everywhere is Ko:hi:kan 珈琲館 (kohee-kan, Coffee-kan). It was an early coffee shop franchise, actually around during the kissaten era. They were focused on taste or different beans of coffee even in that time. They changed the business style and now they are close to the lower price coffee shop franchises. However, the prices are a bit higher and remain in the Kissaten range.
One of these franchises can usually be found around major train stations and city areas. There are similar low-priced local coffee shops mostly inside or near train stations. A great thing about these franchise coffee shops is that they serve snacks (pastries and sandwiches, both Japanese style and Western style) and even breakfast meals.
Lately, another type, a so-called Nagoya style of coffee shop, is becoming popular. At this kind of coffee shop they serve coffee with some kind of snack or sweet for the coffee price, the service is called "Mo-ningu モーニング (morning)". So mainly it's coffee (or soft drink) with a snack or sweet offered during breakfast hours. So the trend of this type came to be. A franchise "Komeda Coffee コメダ珈琲" is the major one so far. But as far as I remember, all kissaten in Tokyo had the Morning Service. It is the same as the Nagoya style, I think so I don't know why they use the word Nagoya for the service.
Another reasonable off shoot of the coffee shop is the family restaurant, ファミレス (fami-resu) is its nickname in Japan. The style is similar to an American diner. Actually, Denny's was an early one and is still one of the dominating fami-resu franchise chains in Japan. What you expect in a fami-resu isn't much different from a family restaurant in the US. They give you the menu with big photos (but the dishes are Japanese style). The layout of the tables and chairs are quite similar to the ones in the US. However, they offer something unique and nice: a self-service "dorinku baa ドリンクバー (drink bar)". You can have any kind of soft drinks, coffee and tea, as much as you want.
Some fami-resu places set a time limit for orders to prevent customers hanging around too long. Some of my friends bring their work to those fami-resu; they drink coffee while working on their PC, finish the work, have a casual meeting with clients, and eat dinner then go home. I wouldn't recommend this as an everyday practice, but it's not a bad idea! The space is bigger or convenient than a hotel room.
The drink bar service is also common in internet-cafes or manga-cafes. Japanese net cafes are usually small rooms or bays with a PC. The individual rooms are very small. I'm not big even by Japanese standards but I can't sit comfortably in that small confined space for too long. Usually, these net-cafe places carry tons of manga books. People read mangas or use a PC as needed, and are charged by the hour. Some manga cafes or the manga areas in net cafes are more open space than the rooms with a PC. In these places, you can use a PC or read manga (in Japanese though) and have access to the drink bar. Some places have a good coffee machine. In fact their coffee aren't bad for the service and price.
The above video is a commercial guide of a net cafe near Himeji City, a typical layout for a net/manga cafe.
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Bento World - (Part 2 of 2)
This is how we used to buy Ekiben in train stations. The seller came to the windows of the train and the passengers bought these "to go" meals from their seats. We didn't do this in the commuter trains, but it was still a big part of the fun of train travel. Unfortunately the train windows can't be opened nowadays, so that tradition was replaced with a new one. Now merchants sell the bentos in a booth on the platform or in the train station concourse.
Above is a video showing a classic train ride the way it used to be, with passengers riding the old trains and vendors selling bentos from the platform. I remember how they called out and walked along side the train windows. We always worried if we could catch one of the vendors, pay our money and grab the ekiben before the train started moving! We would wait to arrive at a certain station to get a certain Ekiben. We prepared coins for a quick exchange, arrived at the station and called out "Bento-ya saaaaan" from the open window. It was fun!
The first train in Japan ran from Tokyo (today's Shinbashi Station) to Yokohama (now Sakuragicho Station) on September 12, the 5th year of Meiji (10/14/1872). There are a few different theories about who sold the first Ekiben but for most agree it was at Utsunomiya Station in Tochigi Prefecture in 1885. The meal was simple; only a couple of onigiri (rice balls) and some pickles.
おにぎり Onigiri
In Japanese restaurants in the US, bento likely means a bento box. But bento in Japanese sense means food (most likely lunch but doesn't have to) brought from home. The "lunch box" type of sense developed and started to sell like Ekiben or conbini bento and so on. So now, you'll probably hear this conversation in a Japanese office around lunch time:
"おひるどうする" Ohiru doo suru? (What are you doing for lunch?)
"あー、今日はお弁当。" Ah, kyo wa obento. (Oh, today I brought my lunch.)
The bento here can be a sandwich, salad, or whatever we brought from home. It could also be something bought from a store or conbini on the way to work. You can also go out to buy a boxed lunch. In that case you'd say "I'm going out to buy a bento for lunch"; in this case the bento means a boxed lunch from a store. But you wouldn't hear bento used if someone is buying a sandwich or any other meal for some reason.
Among the lunch meals, one of our favorite is onigiri, meaning rice balls. You'll see a variety of onigiri in Japanese conbini as well as boxed bento. It's not much favored among Americans whom I personally know because it is mainly rice and kind of plain. Japanese LOVE lots of rice in this plain version! :D
The video above shows how to make rice balls. The way she washes the rice and cools down the rice to make the balls, and cuts the ingredients by scissors, some Japanese may not agree with but you'll get the idea.
空弁 Sora-ben
Sora-ben is another Japanese abbreviated word which is made out of 空 sora (sky) and 弁 ben (a kanji character from 弁当 bento) means the "sky" version of Ekiben. So the Sora-ben are sold by vendors at airports.
弁当男子 Bento Danshi
There used to be a time when lots of Japanese men just didn't cook. Samurai men even were actually prohibited from going into the kitchen! Though strangely enough, most professional cooks were men. Thankfully, times have changed. Lately, cooking is pretty popular pastime among guys. You'll see quite a few cook books for men in Japan. Guys who prepare their own lunches are called "Bento Danshi". It used to be that on the typical guy's wish list was finding a wife who was a good cook. Now, the tables have turned. Meeting a guy who can cook is the definition of a dream guy, and it's high on the wish list of many Japanese girls~!
Please see these Bento Danshi images from Google search.
In fact, these "____ danshi (boys)" or "____ joshi (girls)" are a sort of a trend. It's how you'd call certain types of boys/girls. Actually, it's not as big a trend as it once was, but the girls of Japan are "nikushoku joshi (meat-eater girls)" and "soshoku danshi (grass-eater boys)" and refers to a change happening in Japan: girls are getting tougher and boys are getting more gentle. Well, it may not sound so new in the States but it really does in Japan.
Monday, January 23, 2012
Bento - An Introduction (Part 1 of 2)

Bento ( 弁当 bentō ) is a single-portion takeout or home-packed meal that is still a common part of Japanese food culture. A traditional bento usually has compartments for foods like rice, fish or meat, and one or more pickled or cooked vegetables, and sometimes fruit. The bento is usually a box-shaped container. These containers come in all shapes, sizes, and qualities, from cheap disposable trays to expensive handcrafted lacquer ware. You can find bento, sometimes called "o-bento" or a "bento box", in many places around Japan, including convenience stores, bento shops (弁当屋 bentō-ya), train stations, and department stores. But in my view, some of the most creative bento I have seen are made by hand at home. Even today, it is still common for a Japanese parent or spouse to spend time and energy producing a carefully prepared homemade lunch box.


A bento box can be created to delight a child and make their lunch experience that much better. It's as if they can taste the care and attention that went into creating this artisan lunch. I like to call it art you can eat. Some of the most adorable examples you'll find are in the Flickr category called Kawaii Bento (Cute Bento).
But bento are not just for kids. When I lived in Japan years ago, the salarymen I worked with would bring a bento to the office. Every day at twelve noon, all company members would go upstairs to the company cafeteria with a lunch bag or bento box. (It wasn't allowed to eat by yourself at your desk!) Some of the younger married men had stay at home wives who felt it was their duty to create a charming, healthy bento for their husband. We would sometimes smile or laugh when they opened their bento boxes, which often featured a compartment with white rice adorned with a romantic heart shape!
Types of Bento
Shōkadō bentō (松花堂弁当) is a traditional black lacquer bento box. This is a very traditional Japanese style of bento container. As a side note, this box was the inspiration for IBM's Thinkpad laptop design.
Chūka bentō (中華弁当) are filled with Chinese food. While Chinese do have cold plates, it is more for appetizers or midnight "snack". The food that is associated with Chūka bentō was invented in Japan.
Kamameshi bentō (釜飯弁当) are sold at train stations in Nagano prefecture. It is cooked and served in a clay pot. The pot is a souvenir item.
Hokaben (ホカ弁) is any kind of bento bought at a take-out bento shops. Freshly cooked hot (hokahoka) rice is usually served with freshly prepared side dishes. The name was popularized after a pioneering take-out bento franchise in the field, Hokka Hokka Tei.
Ekiben a bento sold at railway stations (eki) or onboard trains. There are many kinds of ekiben. Ekiben and other specialty bento will be covered in more detail in Part 2.

Bento, especially those originating from Japan, I've noticed, are arranged with healthy foods, and usually feature fruit for a dessert and never chips! They tend to be smaller portions too. In contrast, I have noticed American versions to be different somewhat, more adapted to US tastes -- fresh veggies might replace the pickled vegetables and dessert might include cookies or chocolate. Wherever they are from, one thing is common to all: the meals are fun, creative and appetizing.
To see lots of photos of bento lunches and read the blogs of bento fans, take a look at any of these links:
http://cookinggallery.blogspot.com/
http://bebento-kids.blogspot.com/
http://bentobliss.blogspot.com/
http://www.freewebs.com/bentobird
Navigate to: Flickr website.
Do a search for any of these groups to find many examples of bento box creations.
Kawaii Bento
Bento, Obento
Just Bento
Iron Bento
Bento Swap
Some these these food artists are from Japan, but many others are also joining in, from the United States, Canada, the UK, Italy and other origins. OBento fans can be found around the world!
Want to give creating o bento a try yourself? I like the Jbox online store. It’s fun to browse and check out authentic merchandisefrom Japan that is available for purchase. Their “Bento & Kitchen” category is a great place to start your search for bento boxes and supplies. Jbox writes this about the Kapibarasan Bento Box:“Welcome to the Kapibarasan Cafe, where the coffee is always hot and the staff is always furry. This cute bento box features the adorable capybara characters that have become so popular in Japan recently. Create your own cute lunch-time bento with this adorable box that has a lid that clasps closed for extra security. The compartment holds 260ml (8.75oz). Completely machine washable and microwavable (with the cute character lid taken off). An official Japanese product that is made in Japan.”
Since you or someone you love will be eating from the container, I would recommend purchasing a bento box from Japan or another source that takes the manufacture of foodsafe merchandise as seriously as Japan does.
Some great items are also available on Etsy as well, such as bento bags, boxes, accessories and interesting bento- inspired items.
Mitsuwa Marketplace Check out Mitsuwa stores for bento supplies. This is a chain of supermarkets with locations in Chicago, Illinois, New Jersey and California.
By searching online you should be able to find all kinds of advice offered by people willing to teach you the art of bento. Even food companies can be helpful. Take a look at an interesting webpage by Nippon Ham Group, a Japan-based meat products company. They have an entire section devoted to instructing bento artists how to turn Nippon Ham Group ham and sausage products into lions, sharks, flowers and other decorations. The website is in Japanese, but the illustrations might give you some creative ideas.